Still learning lessons

Have you ever wondered if there is an easier way to learns life's lessons than the hard way?

When we are kids, as we grow we learn how to play with others which leads us to learn how to get along with others. Through the stages of our growth we learn that life is not always fair and getting what we want does not always happen.  We learn how to belong . We discover there are consequences to our behaviors and for some that lesson is harder to get than for others.


As we become adults there are already so many lessons we have learned, some we accept some we do not which may lead to mistakes made.

We learn that what we knew of friendships may have been superficial.  After all as a child or young adult we may not have had an experience that warranted the testing of true friendships.  Our true friendships change the way they look.  It is no longer important to belong to the most popular group.  We don't have to be rich or attractive to be loved by others. We learn that true friends love us for who we really are even when we are being ugly. 

When life gets tough for me who do I want beside me? I want a friend who can tell me the truths even if the truth is not what I want to hear.  That is how we learn and trust and grow.  If someone loves me enough to tell me what is ugly about me and the next sentence they still show they love me, that is who I want by my side.


Our relationships are where we really learn about ourselves.
Friends bad things do happen to good people.  That is just the way life is.  It is how we learn to cope, recover and keep things in perspective that help us learn those life lessons quicker.  Sometimes we have to take some of the lessons we have learned and unlearn them along the way, you know the not so positive .

We are or maybe I should say I am always seraching for the meaning in our living.  I think we find it through our friendships, our sense of purpose, helping others, and our spirituality and for me mostly in my Faith.

I learned a tough lesson this week and it was one I thought I had already learned. I failed the lesson miserabley though.  But this is what I take away;

Relationships are not one sideded ( I knew this) but they may be driven by only 1 person.  What I mean is our relationships are where we really learn about ourselves.  If somone took my friendship for granted then I can not control their role in it but I can control mine. I have become more aware of my own strengths and vulnerabilities and while it takes more than one individual to make a relationship work we can really only control our part.

I am going to be who I am for me, who I am to others for them, and who I am as a child of God for HIM. 

What I hope anyone takes away from a friendship with me is loyalty, honesty and trust.  What they cannot take away is my sense of self I can promise, that lesson is one I have learned.